Questions I Ask Myself
Yesterday, while at a committee meeting with staff and faculty from outside my department and division, I sat there considering the agenda and each form we reviewed. I’ve been on the committee for about a year and we meet monthly. I don’t often see the other six committee members, but I make an effort to contribute to the conversation and I’m grateful to have a seat at the table.
In the midst of a meeting I was feeling confident about, everything seemed shattered with one comment from a staff member. We had been emailed a number of forms and I had missed printing one. He said “aren’t you supposed to be a responsible student?” in jest. I tried to muster a smile, but felt frozen in my chair, unsure of how to respond.
My mind completely left the meeting for the next few minutes and questions flooded my brain:
- Do I dress like a student?
- Do I act like a student?
- Why would he say such a thing?
- Doesn’t he know my title? Maybe I should reply all to more committee emails.
I realize I should take it as a compliment (to be seen as young), but the comment made me feel inadequate and question myself. The meeting didn’t seem to be the place to correct him. As much as I want to think his intention was to tease on some level, I believe he is seriously under the impression I am a student. Having graduated from college more than eight years ago, I don’t see myself as a student but the mistake has been made before (usually by parents at orientation).
So, how do I proceed with this committee role? What would you do?